Faire de la place
Invitation pour du soutien à collectivement faire de la place
RÉSUMÉ : Nous invitons au leadership et à l'auto-organisation, à faire son deuil, célébrer, se relier à sa propre responsabilité, à “faire de la place” pour permettre à quelque-chose de nouveau d'émerger
Chers amis,
Quand nous avons rejoint le conseil d'administration du CNV, il y a plus de deux ans, nous ressentions une souffrance dans le réseau, qui, si elle n'était pas universelle, était très rependue et souvent très profonde. We had a strong sense that there was a great deal of mourning that would need to be done before the NVC network could fully thrive in the way we were most wishing for. I (Bob) imagined that supporting a collective mourning and celebration process might be one of our first steps as a Board.
Beaucoup, beaucoup de choses ont empêché que cela se produise. Et peut-être que ce n'était pas encore le moment. J'ai (Dom) soupçonné que ce serait plus réparateur de commencer un processus de deuil une fois qu'un changement substantiel serait en route. Une partie de la souffrance que nous percevons est liée au découragement chez beaucoup que le CNVC soit jamais capable de répondre efficacement et de manière satisfaisante à donner un retour au sujet des besoins et des attentes de la communauté. En l’absence de changement manifeste, il serait compréhensible que beaucoup ne voudraient pas s'en ouvrir quant à leur peine au sujet de la situation. Ce serait facile de choisir au lieu de cela de focaliser son énergie ailleurs.
Maintenant, nous sommes à un nouveau moment. Pour certains, le processus que nous avons annoncé apporte un sentiment d'espoir, et peut-être de l'excitation. Pour d'autres, nous nous sommes "grillés" auparavant, les conditions ne sont pas encore réunies pour se sentir assuré de se relier à beaucoup d'espoir. Que vous ressentiez de l'espoir ou non, il nous semble que ce pourrait être le bon moment pour faire le deuil des besoins non satisfaits en relation avec le CNVC et son réseau. Bob l'a suggéré pendant ses téléconférences, et nous avons aussi reçu des courriels de nombreuses personnes suggérant cela indépendamment.
We long for this process we are beginning together to occur in what one might call a “clear emotional space,” in which we can look at what we want as if for the first time, with fresh eyes, and open minds and hearts. We believe this would support creativity, balance, and insight. We trust what we imagine might emerge from this state of mind and heart.
If pain about what has been are strongly alive in us as we work, I (Bob) worry we might “over-correct”, going to the opposite extreme of whatever extreme we currently imagine being expressed, leading to a subsequent need to “pendulum back.” And if we are lost in pain about how things are, or contracted around our struggle to defend what we value about how things are, we worry that the scope of our vision will be limited. We long for us all to be able to see and act on the many wonderful possibilities that could emerge from our coming together, previously unimagined sweet opportunities to serve life.
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With this in mind, we invite those inspired to do so to offer leadership in supporting the community in “clearing the space” prior in the launch of the Synanim (“Framing the Big Picture”) process. By this, we mean supporting processes that will contribute to freedom from the grip of emotions and thoughts that may make it difficult to move forward and participate in the process with full access to our inner resources.
Processes that we understand as supporting “clearing the space” include
- mourning, and celebration;
- self-responsibility.
Mourning might be done via grieving circles, where our pain can be witnessed and allowed to matter.
Addressing self-responsibility might involve asking ourselves questions such as, “What is my role in this?”, “How have I contributed to creating or maintaining a situation I wish were different?” or “Are there ways that I have given away my power?” — and later, “How would I be showing up if I were fully in my power, recognizing interdependence and serving what I value?” Such questions can be particularly helpful in situations where we am telling ourselves stories that cast ourselves or others as victims, villains, or heroes.
We have a goal of inclusiveness for the “New Future” process. We would like the “clearing the space” processes to be inclusive by:
- including not only certified trainers and certification candidates, but anyone who values NVC and carries pain about what has been;
- facilitating participation, and making invitations, in whatever language people are most comfortable in using to express what is in their hearts;
- offering events that either local, in-person events, or are teleconference events at times suitable for people anywhere in the world.
We would like for this to happen within the next 4 or 5 weeks.
We would love to have all this happen — and we are clear we do not currently have the capacity to organize this ourselves, given other work that needs to be done to implement the upcoming change process. So, our invitation to you is to take leadership, and to self-organize.
We appreciate that Catherine Cadden, Gayano Shaw, and Jesse Wiens have already responded to an earlier informal invitation and have announced a despair circle on the trainers list. And, we are hoping this will be simply the first instance of a comprehensive variety of opportunities for people to participate in “clearing the space."
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Some of you might not be carrying a lot of pain. You might not feel a need to have such a process for your own sake. And, we invite you to consider participating anyway, with an intention to bear witness and to supporting healing for others, who are carrying a load of pain.
We don’t kid ourselves that what we do in the next month or so can heal all the pain that has built up. Yet, we hope that we could collectively a least take a step that could be significant to those who are able to participate.
Maybe there are some completely different types of processes that you think would support “clearing the space." We would welcome any types of processes that support this aim.
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Are you willing to self-organize and team up to make this happen?
We also welcome hearing what comes up for you as you read all this.
With hope and gratitude,
Bob Wentworth & Dominic Barter
May 1, 2014
